Wednesday, 20 January 2010

Even sunbeams get the blues

My day did not start well. I got a phone call from my Dad to say he and my Stepmum have separated. I only spoke to them on Saturday! Amazing what can happen in a couple of days. He said it was mutual so hopefully it will be quite amicable. My little brother seems ok, a little shaken but alright. He's a year older than I was when my Mum and Dad split up.

This will be my 3rd familial divorce. Mum/Dad, Mum/Stepdad, Dad/Stepmum. Not a great history really. It got me thinking about the divorce rate in my family and it goes like this.
Mum and Dad followed by them both splitting from a following marriage. My Nana and Grandad on my Mum's side have been divorced for longer than I've been alive. About 4 years ago my Grandparents on my Dad's side separated but have not divorced yet. My Uncle on my Dad's side split with his wife before Christmas. On my Mum's side one of my Aunts got divorced years ago, the other has just filed for it. My uncle on my Mum's side is still happily married. One of my Cousins has just filed for divorce.

It's not a happy list is it? Now I certainly don't believe in staying in a relationship that is making you unhappy. I certainly don't believe in staying "for the sake of the children". That's a sure fire way to make everyone unhappy.

However I can't help thinking that the ease of divorce makes people either jump into marriage when their not ready or giving up too easily.

So it's not been the best of days for me. I was supposed to be going to a couple of friends' dance performance this evening but I'm not feeling all that sociable really. Me and Spadger will be sitting down and watching the first season of Being Human on the projector. I could really do with George the werewolf's sense of humor. I leave you with a quote from Disney's Stitch. Things are never as bad as they first seem.

"This is my family. I found it all on my own. It's little, and broken, but still good. Yeah - still good."

1 comment:

  1. Sorry to hear your sad news.

    Hopefully your dad and stepmum are making the right decision and it should not be too traumatic for everyone involved if it is a joint decision and amicable.

    It sounds like you have a good relationship with your little brother - it's good that he has someone to talk to should he need to.

    Love the Stitch quote at the end :)