Sunday, 26 September 2010
Saturday, 25 September 2010
Self Stitched September 25th
Today's repeat is the red skirt with roses on it made from a duvet cover.
Friday, 24 September 2010
None D Day approaches
Ok Guys I'm going to preface this one. This is not a pleasant post. It deals with 2 topics that are still quite taboo; suicide and self harm. If either of these things bother you I suggest you skip this post and come back tomorrow. It's also a bit rambley. Thank you.
It's a light hearted title for quite a serious day for me. It's none dead day. On the 24th of October 2003 I took an overdose. It wasn't overly serious to be fair. I ended up in hospital being fed activated charcoal to make me throw up all the stuff. I didn't need a stomach pump or anything like that. I was released from hospital after a very brief chat with the on duty psych nurse. As far as the health system was concerned they were done with me.
It wasn't a spur of the moment thing. For the previous 12 years I had been fighting, and losing, a battle with self harm. I would dearly love to say that I had a good reason for treating myself thus but I didn't. There is no rape or abuse in my past. No drugs or anything like that. But from the age of 12 to 24 I hurt myself on a regular basis. It started out small, a few bruised from punching things. At 15 it escalated to a few cuts, usually with broken glass, when a bit tipsy. By 18 it was regular cuts with glass, craft blades and whatever was to hand. I was pretty good throughout uni, maybe 3 instances in total. But the strain showed. After uni I hit a point where I just couldn't cope anymore. So on the 24th I got up, went to lunch with a friend, came home and started taking soluble painkillers that I had left over from septic tonsillitis. I took them 4 at a time and I lost count. I took the time, lord knows how many swallows in, to call a friend, an ex, A~. Someone who I cared for a lot. I told them what I had done and that I didn't think they would come to me. I'd say it was a cry for help but I genuinely didn't think he would come, either through not receiving the message I left or through not caring. I was wrong. He came and arrived at the same time as my housemate, N~. It is a testament to how much they cared for me that they were able to be civil to each other as they really despised each other. They got me to hospital (in an ambulance. How guilty did I feel for taking that later on!) and they stayed with me. N~went to collect my friend B~ who I'd forgotten was coming to visit me. The trip tot he psych nurse was pointless. She agreed that I would benefit from seeing a psychiatrist but there was a 2 year waiting list. I was referred to the local women's centre where they had counsellors (that fell through which is a whole other story). So I went home.
After that I decided people could have me scarred and alive or perfect and dead. For the next year I hurt myself almost every day. Drunk or sober it made no difference except to the severity of the damage (drunk you don't feel pain as much and accidentally cause more damage than you intended). I cut, I bruised, I burned. I am scarred on my right leg, left arm chest and stomach. They are certainly not the worst scars I have seen from self harm but they're not the prettiest things in the world. The burns on my arm are the worst. They were done in the January of 2004. On a night out A~ whispered to me that he loved me whilst holding the hand of his current girlfriend. I had no doubt as to his sincerity and still don't. But what bothered me then, what sent me home in tears, was the fact that I wasn't enough. That he couldn't love me enough to be with me. It compounded my feelings of worthlessness. What was wrong with me that I could be an object of desire but not wanted enough to be someones partner? I went home, took a carving fork (those 2 pronged things for holding a joint still while you carve it) and heated it up on the stove. After a lot of determination I pressed it into my arm 4 times. I say determination because the body really does try and protect itself. Every time I got near my arm I shook so badly I couldn't do it. Looking at my arm now I wish my body had won that one. I made several more marks on that arm over the course of that year.
My self harm came to an end in February 2006. That January, on my 24th birthday, I cut myself co badly I scared myself silly. I am fairly certain I went down the subcutaneous at layer but as I didn't go to a Dr I will never know for sure. I didn't feel better afterwards though. The whole point of self harm for me was that it made me feel better. I was able to cope with day to day life. But I felt no better and no worse after that night. On the 16th of February I made 3 small burns on my hand and again I felt no better. That was the point that I decided to stop. If it was making me feel no better then what was the point? Clearly I had reached a turning point in my life.
I have not hurt myself since. I cannot say I am recovered as, like any kind of addict, the thought is there all the time. "Maybe it will work this time. maybe I will feel better." But it just isn't worth trying to see. It has been 4 years and almost 8 months since I stopped. It has been 7 years since I wanted to take my own life. Things have improved vastly in that time and for most of the time I am fine. But I still have moments. Things get on top of me, I feel overwhelmed, I feel unloved and most of all I feel stupid. Deep down I feel stupid for feeling all those things. I know I am loved and I know I can cope. I force myself to cope, to get on with it, to not lay down and wallow in self pity. I cry. Mostly when I feel like this I cry. I shout and I cry. One day I hope to be so under control that I don't do that but for the moment I'll live with that rather than damaging myself. Life was a lot easier when I hurt myself but it was certainly not better.
It's a light hearted title for quite a serious day for me. It's none dead day. On the 24th of October 2003 I took an overdose. It wasn't overly serious to be fair. I ended up in hospital being fed activated charcoal to make me throw up all the stuff. I didn't need a stomach pump or anything like that. I was released from hospital after a very brief chat with the on duty psych nurse. As far as the health system was concerned they were done with me.
It wasn't a spur of the moment thing. For the previous 12 years I had been fighting, and losing, a battle with self harm. I would dearly love to say that I had a good reason for treating myself thus but I didn't. There is no rape or abuse in my past. No drugs or anything like that. But from the age of 12 to 24 I hurt myself on a regular basis. It started out small, a few bruised from punching things. At 15 it escalated to a few cuts, usually with broken glass, when a bit tipsy. By 18 it was regular cuts with glass, craft blades and whatever was to hand. I was pretty good throughout uni, maybe 3 instances in total. But the strain showed. After uni I hit a point where I just couldn't cope anymore. So on the 24th I got up, went to lunch with a friend, came home and started taking soluble painkillers that I had left over from septic tonsillitis. I took them 4 at a time and I lost count. I took the time, lord knows how many swallows in, to call a friend, an ex, A~. Someone who I cared for a lot. I told them what I had done and that I didn't think they would come to me. I'd say it was a cry for help but I genuinely didn't think he would come, either through not receiving the message I left or through not caring. I was wrong. He came and arrived at the same time as my housemate, N~. It is a testament to how much they cared for me that they were able to be civil to each other as they really despised each other. They got me to hospital (in an ambulance. How guilty did I feel for taking that later on!) and they stayed with me. N~went to collect my friend B~ who I'd forgotten was coming to visit me. The trip tot he psych nurse was pointless. She agreed that I would benefit from seeing a psychiatrist but there was a 2 year waiting list. I was referred to the local women's centre where they had counsellors (that fell through which is a whole other story). So I went home.
After that I decided people could have me scarred and alive or perfect and dead. For the next year I hurt myself almost every day. Drunk or sober it made no difference except to the severity of the damage (drunk you don't feel pain as much and accidentally cause more damage than you intended). I cut, I bruised, I burned. I am scarred on my right leg, left arm chest and stomach. They are certainly not the worst scars I have seen from self harm but they're not the prettiest things in the world. The burns on my arm are the worst. They were done in the January of 2004. On a night out A~ whispered to me that he loved me whilst holding the hand of his current girlfriend. I had no doubt as to his sincerity and still don't. But what bothered me then, what sent me home in tears, was the fact that I wasn't enough. That he couldn't love me enough to be with me. It compounded my feelings of worthlessness. What was wrong with me that I could be an object of desire but not wanted enough to be someones partner? I went home, took a carving fork (those 2 pronged things for holding a joint still while you carve it) and heated it up on the stove. After a lot of determination I pressed it into my arm 4 times. I say determination because the body really does try and protect itself. Every time I got near my arm I shook so badly I couldn't do it. Looking at my arm now I wish my body had won that one. I made several more marks on that arm over the course of that year.
My self harm came to an end in February 2006. That January, on my 24th birthday, I cut myself co badly I scared myself silly. I am fairly certain I went down the subcutaneous at layer but as I didn't go to a Dr I will never know for sure. I didn't feel better afterwards though. The whole point of self harm for me was that it made me feel better. I was able to cope with day to day life. But I felt no better and no worse after that night. On the 16th of February I made 3 small burns on my hand and again I felt no better. That was the point that I decided to stop. If it was making me feel no better then what was the point? Clearly I had reached a turning point in my life.
I have not hurt myself since. I cannot say I am recovered as, like any kind of addict, the thought is there all the time. "Maybe it will work this time. maybe I will feel better." But it just isn't worth trying to see. It has been 4 years and almost 8 months since I stopped. It has been 7 years since I wanted to take my own life. Things have improved vastly in that time and for most of the time I am fine. But I still have moments. Things get on top of me, I feel overwhelmed, I feel unloved and most of all I feel stupid. Deep down I feel stupid for feeling all those things. I know I am loved and I know I can cope. I force myself to cope, to get on with it, to not lay down and wallow in self pity. I cry. Mostly when I feel like this I cry. I shout and I cry. One day I hope to be so under control that I don't do that but for the moment I'll live with that rather than damaging myself. Life was a lot easier when I hurt myself but it was certainly not better.
Wednesday, 22 September 2010
Self Stitched September 22nd
Today's repeat is the blue and green ruffeled skirt made from 2 pairs of trousers.
Tuesday, 21 September 2010
Phew - maybe too many projects
This evening I have thread traced all my pieces for the Lady Grey sewalong. I stopped at that point simply because I couldn't make my eyes focus anymore! I've then cut out the pieces for a top and dress for a friend's 1 and 4 year old (I think I have that right) for their birthdays. They are from vintage paterns and have to be done by Sunday. Oh and I have to make a fairy costume for Spadgersdottier for their fancy dress birthday party also on Sunday.
So about those extra hours in the day I requested??
So about those extra hours in the day I requested??
A few words on Vera
Hey folks. Some good questions about Vera which I thought I would answer here.
She is made from chicken wire. I have tried making a form out of both parcel tape and duct tape to no great success. Both of them collapse far too quickly to be any use.
The parcel tape form got all bent out of shape because I didn't let it dry on me for long enough. Man it takes so long to make that you are dying to get out of it. Really!!!
Duct tape could work better but you have to be ready to put it on a base and stuff it pretty darn quick as it really doesn't hold it's shape for long. Plus you can end up with a form a bit bigger than you would like depending on how many layers you go for.
The chicken wire version has definitely worked the best. We made her in 3 sections. The bottom half of my body from under the bust down to over my hips at the front and all up my back and over the shoulder was one part. We just wrapped it round me and cut away the top bit. Each boob was an individually moulded piece. I think most people wouldn't have to go to that mush effort but the bust is where I have all of my fitting issues so we wanted it to be darn accurate. These 3 pieces were then wired together and I wriggled out of it. Spadger then cut a base for her and stapled it together. We stuffed her it cut up bits of the winter duvet as we really don't seem to need it. I guess anything would do that you can pack in well and squeeze into all the curves. He then cut and stapled arm and neck pieces. I draped her in the spotty material which is some kind of stretchy jersey and sewed in in place using stitches to the wire to pull it in around the boobs. She fits onto a stand which is just a pole attached to a cross piece at the bottom. Basically the pole goes into a box that is fixed into the bottom of the form (sounds very rude as I'm trying to explain it). This is so she can be removed and Lucille put in her place when we make her. 2 forms, 1 stand.
I hope that answered your questions. Holler up if I missed anything.
She is made from chicken wire. I have tried making a form out of both parcel tape and duct tape to no great success. Both of them collapse far too quickly to be any use.
The parcel tape form got all bent out of shape because I didn't let it dry on me for long enough. Man it takes so long to make that you are dying to get out of it. Really!!!
Duct tape could work better but you have to be ready to put it on a base and stuff it pretty darn quick as it really doesn't hold it's shape for long. Plus you can end up with a form a bit bigger than you would like depending on how many layers you go for.
The chicken wire version has definitely worked the best. We made her in 3 sections. The bottom half of my body from under the bust down to over my hips at the front and all up my back and over the shoulder was one part. We just wrapped it round me and cut away the top bit. Each boob was an individually moulded piece. I think most people wouldn't have to go to that mush effort but the bust is where I have all of my fitting issues so we wanted it to be darn accurate. These 3 pieces were then wired together and I wriggled out of it. Spadger then cut a base for her and stapled it together. We stuffed her it cut up bits of the winter duvet as we really don't seem to need it. I guess anything would do that you can pack in well and squeeze into all the curves. He then cut and stapled arm and neck pieces. I draped her in the spotty material which is some kind of stretchy jersey and sewed in in place using stitches to the wire to pull it in around the boobs. She fits onto a stand which is just a pole attached to a cross piece at the bottom. Basically the pole goes into a box that is fixed into the bottom of the form (sounds very rude as I'm trying to explain it). This is so she can be removed and Lucille put in her place when we make her. 2 forms, 1 stand.
I hope that answered your questions. Holler up if I missed anything.
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